Father of the bride speech – an example

My sister got married a few weeks ago, and as is customary, my father was to give a speech at the wedding.

I could tell that he was very daunted by this responsibility, and so a couple of days before the big day, I asked him how he was getting on. He showed me a few lines he had scribbled on a piece of paper. They went along the lines of: ‘it gives us great pleasure to be here for the union of Kate and Ryan’. Next sentence: ‘we’re delighted to be here to witness this special day’. He clearly wasn’t getting very far with it, (although he was on the right track, bless him!) so I decided to stick my oar in, and ended up writing his speech for him.

Below is a tweaked version of the speech, with a few bits removed. I hope it helps anyone in need of a bit of inspiration. (I should add that the speech went down a treat; my father had so many compliments about it that he joked he’d start to offer speech-writing classes to anyone who needed them…!)

Here is the speech:

“Good evening ladies and gentlemen. On behalf of my wife Sally and I, I would like to welcome you all to this very special occasion, to celebrate the marriage of our daughter Kate to Ryan.

We would like to begin by thanking Liz and Daniel for their fine son Ryan, and we would also like to officially welcome Ryan to our family.

It’s great to see family and friends here, especially those who have made a special effort to be here, so thank you all for coming. A massive thanks to everyone who has given their time and effort to help make this day such a lovely occasion. And let us think of those who can’t be here today.

Today I gain a son-in-law, he gains a wife, and my bank manager starts talking to me again…

Kate looks lovely today, doesn’t she? It is hard to find the right words to express how I feel today – extremely proud is an understatement. Kate you have achieved so much and grown to be a beautiful, outstanding young woman. You have been the perfect daughter. Kate, you spelt perfect wrong!

Despite your phases of getting your eyebrow pierced and trying to hide it from us, sitting in your room and blasting the horrible sounds of the Spice Girls [Sing: I’ll tell you what I want, what I really really want…] and spending all your weekends in the West End getting up to mischief. Still, they made you who you are today I am proud to call you my daughter and I know Ryan will be very proud to call his wife.

Ryan, as Kate should have explained to you a few weeks ago, this is the beginning of another kind of headache. But thank you for getting us all here today – Kate always insisted she was never going to get married, so this is a great feat. I remember when you told us about your proposal once you came back from China – Kate was so happy she had tears welling up in her eyes. Ryan, we’re glad Kate has found a partner in you.

I would also like to ask you Ryan, what did you do to the shopaholic daughter we raised? A while after she started seeing you, all the shopping trips died down and she wasn’t buying clothes every weekend. Whatever you did, we thank you!

Final note to Ryan, as you probably already know, Kate is going to harass you until you buy her a cat, we know, we’ve heard it for the last 24 years, so good luck with that one!

Last but not least anyone here who wishes to help out a happy but now poor father after paying for this wedding, please feel free to give a donation in cash, cheque or bank transfer.

I know that Ryan has chosen well and wish him and Kate everything they need for a long, happy and prosperous future together.

So ladies and gents, I’d like to ask you to raise your glasses for Mr and Mrs Moolie.”


Wedding ‘save the date’ card design

A personalised ‘save the date’ note I created for a newly engaged couple… It is becoming increasingly common for couples to send out these ‘save the date’ cards before their wedding invitation in order to make their guests aware of the date on which they will marry, so the guests know to keep it free.

Fun bachelorette and hen party games: tried-and-tested!

A few months ago, I took on the responsibility of organising my sister’s hen/bachelorette parties. Yes, I used the plural – ‘parties’ – because the madam decided that she’d have one hen party abroad (for those who could make it to another country) and one nearer to home (for everyone else who couldn’t) – apparently it’s the new thing to do.

Having only ever been to one civilised hen party before taking on this mammoth task, I was a little lost for ideas, so I had to be inventive.

I wanted to share the games I researched, and created, to help those ladies who are stuck in a similar rut – with a hen party to organise, and a limited amount of time to get it together! Remember, the main aim of the party is to make a fuss of and embarrass the bride-to-be, while entertaining her hens.

Give these heart-shaped bubbles to each of your hens – they’re cute and chic, and a nice memento of the night! Or you might like these or, alternatively, these naughty ones

Hen party games

-Wedding-themed memory game: If the hens don’t know each other too well, this is a quick way to break the ice. The first hen starts by saying: ‘My name is ______ and I’m taking a _____ to [bride-to-be’s name’s] wedding. So if the hen’s name is Sally, and the bride’s name is Mary, Sally would say: ‘My name is Sally and I’m taking a sausage to Mary’s wedding.’ We played it so the name of item also began with the hen’s first initial, so Sally took a sausage, and Laura took a lizard. The next hen has to repeat Sally’s item, and add one of her own, etc.

Get this badge set so each hen has their own. These badges are cool too

-Interesting fact: This is another great icebreaker but it takes some preparation. In the run-up to the hen party, ask the hens to tell you an interesting fact about themselves. Then, at the party, read out the fact and ask the rest of hens if they can guess who it relates to. We had some hilarious revelations: one hen was a member of a medieval re-enactment group, one liked to drink tea in between a drinking session, another owned 60 pairs of shoes – you get the gist!

-Pin the willy on the bloke: A variation of the traditional Pin the Tail on the Donkey game – simply replace the donkey with a hunk, and the tail with a willy. I did a DIY job with preparing this – I just stuck lots of pieces of paper together and drew on a life-size hunk, then used Blu Tack to secure to the wall. Draw or print off a cartoon willy, cut round it and use Blu Tack to give it a sticky back. If you don’t have time, just buy the game. Blindfold the hen, swivel her round a few times and then let her pin the willy. We wrote the hen’s name on the spot she pinned to compare performance!

What’s in your purse? The hen with the weirdest things in her purse is likely to win this game. Hens get points for the items they arrived at the party with – so, for example, as the host, you would ask: ‘Who has a receipt for shoes in their purse?’ and all those hens who have one are awarded 20 points. You can make a list of a range of things, such as: toothbrush – 5 points; picture of partner – 5 points; condom – 10 points; PMS medication – 15 points; spare underwear – 20 points; a pen which isn’t black or blue – 10 points, etc. The hen with the most points wins!

-Mould the best willy: Arm some of the hens with Play Doh, and challenge them to model a willy. If you’re feeling really adventurous, get them to do it blindfolded, or with their eyes shut. The rest of the hens then vote the winning model.

-Pass the bouquet: This is just like musical chairs, but it uses a bouquet. Get your hands on false flowers, or real flowers if you fancy it, and you’ll need one of the hens to control the music. Get everyone else to stand in a circle with their back to the centre, and while the music plays the hens have to pass the bouquet to the person next to them. The person who is holding the bouquet when the music stops is eliminated, and the last person standing is the winner!


Inflatable selfie picture frame

-The biscuit game – You’ll need a packet of digestives from the supermarket for this game. Get hens to bite the best heart, bouquet or willy shape and compare the results at the end – awarding prizes for the best willy, biggest willy, or biggest heart, for example.


Inflatable props and accessories

-Mr & Mrs Quiz – Get the groom to fill out a quiz, and the bride-to-be to guess his answers. Turn it into a drinking game by making her take a shot for every answer she gets wrong. Here is a list of questions I gave to the groom > Questions for groom.


A cute keepsake for the bride

-How well do you know the bride? Craft a multiple-choice quiz for the hens, about the bride-to-be, which she has answered in advance. Split the hens into teams and get them to guess the answers. Swap sheets at the end and get the teams to mark each other’s answers – the winning team receives a prize! Here is the quiz I created for the bride to fill in > How well do you know the bride? Quiz questions. Then you can get the losing team to do some dares – here are some outrageous dare cards

-Bridal pictionary: Based on the well-known Pictionary game, for this you need pieces of paper and pens. Think of wedding-related words, such as rings; flowers; bride; champagne; cake; music; wedding dress; 27 Dresses; bridesmaids etc and write them on small pieces of paper. Split the hens into teams – perhaps ‘The Bride’s Team’ and ‘The Groom’s Team’ and get them to take turns in picking a word and attempting to draw it using pictures. The team that guesses the most correct answers wins.

-True or false: Gather 10 to 15 facts about the bride-to-be. Half should be true and half should be false. Get the hens to try and decide which ones are true!


Prosecco pong – beer pong’s classy sister

-I Have Never – drinking game: One hen starts by revealing an ‘I have never’ statement such as ‘I have never eaten a whole box of chocolates’ or ‘I have never lied about my age’. Those hens who have done this – who have eaten a box of chocolates, or have lied about their age – must drink. Then the next hen says what she has never done, etc.

-Scavenger hunt and to-do list: Give your bride-to-be a list of items she must acquire, and a set of tasks she must complete during her hen party. If you don’t want to be too cruel, you can add that she can nominate her hens to do some of these for her. Items to collect could include: a business card; a condom; a phallic-shaped item and boxers. Things to do could include: get a guy to buy you a shot; get a photo with a man in uniform; get a guy to dance for you, etc. The prize of the game is a lifetime of memories. Click to see the ‘Bride to be to-do list’ and the ‘Bride-to-be’s list of things to collect’

-My first kiss: Get the hens to go round and reveal details of their first kisses… Prepare for lots and lots of giggles.

Themes for hen nights

It’s great fun to set a dress code for the hen parties. We chose nerds, where we wore oversized glasses, braces, knee high socks and drew on zits. We also dressed up as Disney characters – we coordinated so we were all different characters, from Cruella de Vil and Pocahontas to Snow White and Minnie Mouse. For the final night we dressed up as animals – so the girls wore animal print dresses and tops, and some wore ears, tails and I got hold of some face paints, too.

Easier themes would include cow girls; angels and devils; fairies; neon; James Bond and The Only Way Is Essex! If you’re looking at hen tat to buy, sashes, whistles, mini bubbles necklaces, Hen Party name badges and willy straws really went down a hit! If you want to go OTT, you could get an inflatable willy, mini tiaras, glow sticks and a bride to be veil. Have a happy hen x

Use these bits and pieces to accessorise the party:


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